Your Words Are Your Most Powerful Tool To
Karen was tired and overwhelmed from listening to the
incessant office gossip. Gossip is always the same. You talk about the
next change, who would be in charge, and the person's lack of character
and qualifications to take over. Karen knew that we are all armchair
critics who know what is best and know the "truth" about the situation.
She did not like this aspect of organizations. Karen watched as
"truths" flew about the office. She began to feel very badly about
colleagues with admirable reputations who were now the focus through
rumors and damaging gossip.
The Names Can Never Hurt You Myth
Name-calling and negative talk about another can and
does hurt. Words can kill or heal your soul. Most assuredly, you can
think of probably a handful of comments that you have never forgotten.
You have never forgotten them because words are powerful. Words used
against another can cause a wound that is difficult to erase. Words do
shape your attitudes. Your thoughts and attitudes do evolve into either
positive or negative feelings. Negative feelings perpetuate the
momentum of gossip, slander, and revengeful behavior. How you think and
the words you use, or refrain from using on a daily basis has a
profound impact on the course of daily living. You can feel bitter or
peaceful inside all by the words you choose to think and speak.
Will You Talk Or Not?
You are the author of creating either a good or bad
atmosphere at work or home. What you have to say may be true, provable
with evidence. You can always find facts to support your case.
Is what you say really a contribution or just another
way to feel superior? Before you say anything, you might want to take
five whole minutes to think about whether or not someone will get hurt.
Will what you have to say help a situation or further
Is your motivation for what you have to say to further
yourself or for the best of the organization?
Don't respond when you are angry or hurt. Journal out
anger and hurt then think about what you can say that would help
Talk Less Or Speak With Kindness And Do More
When in doubt, it is best to refrain from sharing your
opinion. Be the one to refrain from participating in office gossip.
Give your support and let your deeds carry you. Be conscious of what
you say. Put some effort into avoiding judging and executing others.
Your words are powerful tools. Negativity creates more
negativity and usually comes back to haunt you. Good words and deeds
also have a positive way of coming back to you. Let your positive
actions speak for you.